The Syndicate

bea wrote: ↑Sun Nov 06, 2022 11:26 pm Today was the weirdest day off ever. My entire managment staff (who's jobs I was there to help save) up and quit on me today. Thank goodness my supervisor went in and covered the store as i needed to help diggz with xmas lights pr he wpuld have had a fit.

I mean, it will be tight for a few but, I guess all the trash took itself out in one swoop. I got a csr to piss off by holding her accountable yet and lots of issues should start to go away.

This store is so broken. I think getting it running right again is one of the most challening things ever.

And yet. And yet. If I know a single person in this world who can get the most challenging store running right, it is you.

dunya wrote: ↑Tue May 22, 2018 4:11 amI'd handle people like her like I handle toddlers--try to ease them into trusting me and seeing things my way. But one thing for certain is I'd never put up with it indefinitely. If you feel like you're beating a dead horse, take it higher or confront her then because things can't get much worse.

Yeah this is pretty much what I'm going to do. The silly thing here is that this is a lawyer that I feel is being unethical and that's something I deeply struggle with. But I also struggle with the unethical aspect of, like, giving a performance that might make me look good to her, which isn't necessarily the same as giving my best.

sig, the good thing is my old boss is now her boss, so I know I'm in safe hands in that respect. I'd go up the chain if I feel I need to but I just talk to my old boss about it mostly. HR isn't a great option because new manager has spent her time in the job giving a lot of advice to HR, so that relationship is already really good.

sig wrote: ↑Tue May 22, 2018 3:11 amMake sure your exchanges with HR/higher management is recorded so you have something to fall back on and I'd avoid being alone with your current boss and make sure to keep a record of conversation/emails. Just so she can't accuse you of something to try and get rid of you.

This is pretty much where I'm going to be at. Keeping careful records of conversations etc.

The 'calling her out' part is a little bit trickier but I do think I need to do a little of that too, just in a gentle way.

I'm sort of in the 'anger' part of stages of grief right now where I'm more mad at the fact someone could be like this. I was hurt for a while, and I guess I still am a bit hurt, but also just mad in that I treat people with integrity and expect that back and don't like when I don't get it.

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The most important thing here is that I happen to be in an extremely high functioning legal team that is trusted by senior leadership; and that I do genuinely make an impact on children's lives for the better (not every day, but often). And not in a small way. Getting them out of abusive houses, and into caring ones, for example. It's a real job with real stakes for people who I can genuinely help and it's not the kind of thing you run away from because your manager is a bit shit, and that's what I'm going to be hanging on to.

Btw for those of you who have me on Facebook etc this one is definitely on the site only please.

So it turns out my ongoing employment ended up being the topic of a lot of debate.

I’ve been working in my team for the last nine months and I’ve really enjoyed the job. My manager is one of the most inspirational people I’ve worked for. She’s visionary, and she really manages to set a tone. My team is amazing, and I really get along with all of them. But there is this one person, who I’ve never quite been able to figure out. I really liked her, but for whatever reason I was never quite sure exactly what she was thinking. That’s ok though, she’s been really busy and stressed and I figured that she probably just need to be mostly left alone to get work done. I wasn’t that bothered by it.
We are now putting in to place our final team structure. We really need it, because we are understaffed. So we are growing to double the size. As a result, my manager needed to put another person in, a deputy chief legal counsel, and that’s who I’ll be reporting to.

The job went to that very woman who I didn’t quite understand, and the next thing I know, I find out she’s fighting to get rid of me. Why? Apparently because I don’t work hard enough. Now to put this in context, I’ve been working extremely long hours, cancelled a holiday, didn’t go to the doctor when I was sick, basically put on hold all my other life commitments as well, hired external legal counsel to help me with aspects of the job – because this job was so demanding of me at the moment. We are short staffed, and because of that inspirational boss, I’ve been fine doing it. Actually genuinely happy doing it. My new manager, there is no way she could actually not see that this was the case. She managed to pick up a couple of examples where the very least important thing I’m doing that was non-urgent, wasn’t done to her expected time frames (which weren’t stated).

The worst thing about this is that I had no idea my new manager felt this way. She’s never addressed it to me directly. I had to interview again and she was on my interview panel – she could have put a question directly to me about it or given me the opportunity to defend myself, but she didn’t. She chose to fight against me in a closed room without my knowledge and without ever giving me a chance to respond or even know. I only find out because my current manager was determined to let me know what I was walking into if I took the job.

Now I managed to keep my job due to the grace of my current manager and her fighting for me. But now I’ll have to report to someone who I know wanted to get rid of me, and I still don’t understand what the real reason was. I feel like my real life is a game of mafia. It’s really taken the joy out of the job, and while I objectively know that there is something else going on here and the issue actually doesn’t lie with me, that doesn’t really help. I am a person who generally in life doesn’t need the validation of others and has enough self-worth that I would think something like this doesn’t bother me. But it does – I feel like I suddenly have no job security and a boss I can’t trust. It’s not a situation I imagined finding myself in and frankly – it just sucks.

It’s now been more than a week that I’ve known this and been processing it and it hasn’t gotten much easier yet. I’ve been hoping for some sort of sign that opinions have changed on me at least slightly but I don’t think that they have. I’ve had the odd depressive episode over it. I’m hoping it gets better.

Quin wrote: ↑Fri Apr 20, 2018 3:00 am Working at the uni just became my only gig.

I did unpaid work experience at a coffee shop over the past month in a program that was supposed to lead to employment there. I just got a phone call that leaves me thinking that I was just being used as free labor over Easter.

Still, my research work is great, I'm hopefully going to have reliable working hours within the next few weeks, and the boss lady is awesome to work with. Being able to dedicate my time to my uni job is a net positive.

This seems exceptionally illegal to me - not that I'm an Australian labour expert.

Epignosis wrote: ↑Wed Apr 18, 2018 11:50 pm

Golden wrote: ↑Wed Apr 18, 2018 11:30 pm

Epignosis wrote: ↑Wed Apr 18, 2018 11:26 pm

Golden wrote: ↑Wed Apr 18, 2018 11:23 pm When you are in charge of something big and you spill your blood and guts on the floor to get it done, other people don't support you the way you're supposed to, and then get mad at you for doing your own job when you simply call out what you need them to do.

Shit man you a teacher too?

I could use a spring break, that's for sure.

Today I dealt with an ex-girlfriend beating the shit out of an ex-boyfriend. He was on the ground. She sliced his face open with her nail. He didn't hit her and even asked that she not get into trouble.

I'm too old for this shit.

Epignosis wrote: ↑Wed Apr 18, 2018 11:26 pm

Golden wrote: ↑Wed Apr 18, 2018 11:23 pm When you are in charge of something big and you spill your blood and guts on the floor to get it done, other people don't support you the way you're supposed to, and then get mad at you for doing your own job when you simply call out what you need them to do.

Shit man you a teacher too?

I could use a spring break, that's for sure.

When you are in charge of something big and you spill your blood and guts on the floor to get it done, other people don't support you the way you're supposed to, and then get mad at you for doing your own job when you simply call out what you need them to do.

Epignosis wrote: ↑Thu Feb 22, 2018 10:01 pm My friend called and said he's losing part of his foot.

That really sucks. A friend of mine lost a finger recently. It really makes you appreciate how much being whole matters to you.

Epignosis wrote: ↑Tue Aug 08, 2017 2:42 pm I'm almost positive I have cubital tunnel syndrome. I'm hoping an elbow brace at night helps.

Guys, I can't even bend a guitar string for a whole note.

epi, this is shit. I hope that it heals.

My sister, who is a pianist, suffered carpal tunnel. It took her a while of non-use, but she can play the piano now. She just can't do it for extended periods. I'll be praying for you.

Epignosis wrote: ↑Wed Aug 02, 2017 2:15 pmI don't want to know what third left item is going to fail.

I hear that you can function completely fine with only one...

Some days just don't work out right for no discernible reason. You end up feeling lonely when everyone is around, sad when you are having fun, hurt when no one has done anything to you that is hurtful. And then they pass again, and the next day is fine.

Today is one of those days.

Epignosis wrote:I'm still looking at it in disbelief.

Apparently, life hates you today.