The Syndicate

Let us know, let us know!
When this game, for you, it blows!
When butt hurt you can take no more,
Just walk up to our door!
Let us know, let us know!
When you wish to strike another in the face,
Let a mod take his place!
Let us know, let us know.

You're welcome Dharma.

Epignosis wrote:

XthAtGAm3RGuYX wrote:I'm probably the only person around here that would flip shit if contacted by a mod about muh feelings in the middle of a game

Could I PM you and tell you I don't give a shit about your feelings instead?

That would probably make me feel better because it would get a laugh out of me lol.

By all means.

Spacedaisy wrote:I get what you are saying gamer guy. I will say this, I would prefer someone freak out on our mods behind the scenes than lose their cool in thread. But as a mod I won't approach you unless needed.

Yeah that makes sense too. I just think that making it mandatory and unavoidable would get annoying for some people. Like you ever had a bad day at work and somebody from HR comes to talk about how you're feeling and you see em coming and are just like "Fucking great"? I feel like not being able to opt out of it would make it feel like that.

I'm probably the only person around here that would flip shit if contacted by a mod about muh feelings in the middle of a game, but like I said I have a few loose bolts. Anger issues and flip of a switch mood shifts. I'd be a vocal minority from this stance and not much else.

thellama73 wrote:I think that if you can't be approached by a mod without lashing out at them, that's a problem.

Can't wait to play mafia with you. I'll never be able to explain a read without it being misunderstood.

previous posts as context, when somebody asks me why im pissed off, it makes it worse.
not being able to opt-out of mod intervention will ensure they ask me why im pissed off if I get angry.
they reach out to me, and it makes the problem worse.
I tell the mod to go fuck themselves kindly.
mod catches feelings when all they had to do was leave me alone and my problem wouldve resolved itself eventually.

See what I'm getting at here?

now, if I opt out? none of that happens. but even if I opt out, and I make somebody else angry, they talk to the mod. Mod is justifiably allowed to reach out to me despite opting out, in order to tell me to can it.

thellama73 wrote:To be honest though, sometimes you have to contact people who don't want to be contacted. I don't really like the idea of a "mod immunity" list, because then when you have to confront someone about something, they are going to be all "I SAID DON'T CONTACT ME, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?"

I said the mod just shouldnt check in with people who are on that list. If you have to contact them as a result of another player entirely then that's where the line is.

Just saying, if I dont get to be on an opt out list, i am highly likely to hurt the mods feelings if I'm already cooking. The mod wouldnt be very good at helping other people then would he?

Personally, whenever somebody asks me why I'm upset it's no better than throwing gasoline on an oil fire. For some reason it always pisses me off more, and somebody tapping me on the shoulder would make it worse. If I want to talk to somebody about something, then I'll find somebody.

So my 2 cents, somebody asking me how I feel like an armchair psychologist would exacerbate the problem for me. But that's just me. A few bolts loosened up and fell out quite some time ago, so I'm sure I dont tick quite the same way as you guys do.

Perhaps the mod on duty should have a list, that all the players in a game can opt into, which would essentialyl be a "fuck off" order. If they opt in, the mod on duty will not check in with them when observing certain circumstances, but the player can still contact the mod. So me for instance? I'd opt in every time. If I have a problem I'll come get you. Otherwise leave me alone.

Also, mechanically this is a good idea. Hosts normally have a tidal wave of PM's to deal with everyday, and having a filter to sift through the stuff that is really a personal problem would help out greatly. Games would probably be easier to run with somebody to absorb all the player complaints, and only give the important stuff to the actual host.