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[Epignosis]

Do you guys have the same anniversary as LC and BR????? I just saw them posting about theirs on FB

They're July 5th, I believe. We're July 6th.

[Long Con]

Do you guys have the same anniversary as LC and BR????? I just saw them posting about theirs on FB

They're July 5th, I believe. We're July 6th.

This is #notfakenews

[Spacedaisy]

I think this is my favorite Hed ever. It should be immortalized. We don't have many Hedville Brethren left here.

[Epignosis]

Perhaps the best article I've read all day.

Jesus, my parents would be serving life in prison for what they let us "go through."

[Epignosis]

PS- if you can't open the article because of a paywall, right click and open it in a private window.

[ColinIsCool]

I’d like to know what sort of childhoods the police officers involved in those cases had, but for them it’s probably more about being a bully than concern for the kids.

[Epignosis]

I’d like to know what sort of childhoods the police officers involved in those cases had, but for them it’s probably more about being a bully than concern for the kids.

I think there's more to it than that.

We live in a shame-fueled culture. People seem to think they get "points" for calling somebody out. The definition of "hero" is soiled.

Police are stuck in an unenviable middle ground here in which a lawsuit awaits their department at any turn (and even if they make the right calls).

Some parents are neglectful, and some are intentionally trying to harm their children. Pretending to forget them is one way they go about it.

It's a shitty climate, but refusing able children their independence and ability to interact with the world freely is going to cripple them long term.

[Epignosis]

For example: It's a cool day, and I see an older kid alone in a car. I would rather hang out and make sure the parent comes back rather than immediately get a license plate and call 911. That's an overreaction. I'd rather just let the other parent know, "Hey, it's cool- you did what you had to do and had another set of eyes looking out for you."

[juliets]

I think this is my favorite Hed ever. It should be immortalized. We don't have many Hedville Brethren left here.

Oh my God a hed. I remember the day I discovered the thread - I laughed and laughed, I couldn't stop reading them. One of the best days ever.

[Golden]

I’d like to know what sort of childhoods the police officers involved in those cases had, but for them it’s probably more about being a bully than concern for the kids.

I think there's more to it than that.

We live in a shame-fueled culture. People seem to think they get "points" for calling somebody out. The definition of "hero" is soiled.

Police are stuck in an unenviable middle ground here in which a lawsuit awaits their department at any turn (and even if they make the right calls).

Some parents are neglectful, and some are intentionally trying to harm their children. Pretending to forget them is one way they go about it.

It's a shitty climate, but refusing able children their independence and ability to interact with the world freely is going to cripple them long term.

This is so very true. Our culture is one of blame instead of community. You cannot but stop risk at every turn in fear of public retribution. Everyone believes they get a say in everything without having to have responsibility for any of it.

I have struggled with this for a long time. I abhor the idea of going in to politics, but I deeply desire someone to go into politics with this very issue at its heart and give it importance and relevance. I think the root cause is the primacy of the individual right. It leads people to justify their own ego as the highest form of ethics and morality. But the individual right also has strong benefits. It's not easy to address.

[juliets]

Why is Golden now sanggolden?

[Epignosis]

Why is Golden now sanggolden?

He identifies as Korean.

[juliets]

Why is Golden now sanggolden?

He identifies as Korean.

[Sloonei]

Perhaps the best article I've read all day.

Jesus, my parents would be serving life in prison for what they let us "go through."

I was just getting my haircut and there was a mother at the barber shop with her two young sons. While the older kid was getting his hair did, the younger brother was getting restless and wanted to go outside. It’s a nice day out there, I can’t blame him. But I heard his mother tell him, “If you go outside someone is going to snatch you up.” It brought me right back to this article.

I’m not a parent, I have no experience with bearing and raising children and don’t know what that’s like. But to me that brand of parenting seems more harmful than good. Of any of the myriad reasons you can give to keep a kid inside, that’s not one that I’d encourage. You’re instilling paranoia and anxiety in your kid by telling him that The World is out to get him, and by extension restrict his childhood independence. If we magnify that mindset, a kid will grow up afraid of what’s out there and remain dependent when they shouldn’t be. Maybe, i dunno, my stomach turned when I heard this woman I don’t know anything about say those words.

[Golden]

Why is Golden now sanggolden?

Daisy and I changed our user names for the Genius finals.

[Epignosis]

Perhaps the best article I've read all day.

Jesus, my parents would be serving life in prison for what they let us "go through."

I was just getting my haircut and there was a mother at the barber shop with her two young sons. While the older kid was getting his hair did, the younger brother was getting restless and wanted to go outside. It’s a nice day out there, I can’t blame him. But I heard his mother tell him, “If you go outside someone is going to snatch you up.” It brought me right back to this article.

I’m not a parent, I have no experience with bearing and raising children and don’t know what that’s like. But to me that brand of parenting seems more harmful than good. Of any of the myriad reasons you can give to keep a kid inside, that’s not one that I’d encourage. You’re instilling paranoia and anxiety in your kid by telling him that The World is out to get him, and by extension restrict his childhood independence. If we magnify that mindset, a kid will grow up afraid of what’s out there and remain dependent when they shouldn’t be. Maybe, i dunno, my stomach turned when I heard this woman I don’t know anything about say those words.

The paranoia is wrought by a constant attention given to the "media" (whatever passes for that these days); I submit that kidnappings and murders and what have you have always been a threat, but now you get to hear about every single one in every painful detail and see everyone's reaction every damn time.

It's increased parental fear of letting their kids do something relatively harmless.

What you don't hear about as often?

Fatal car crashes- and parents don't mind driving their kids around, even though that is one of the biggest threats to their kids' lives (and some parents will even be on their cell phones during the drive!).

Prevalent irrational parental fear bothers me for precisely the same reason you have articulated: Children become adults, and they will be afraid adults, dependent adults, and weak adults.

"If you go outside, someone is going to snatch you up."

Who is someone?

99.9% of the world wants nothing to do with your kid, lady. Promise.

[Sloonei]

I am mostly settled into my new place. Classes start next week. It’s a huge relief, life feels like it’s in motion again.

[ColinIsCool]

I am mostly settled into my new place. Classes start next week. It’s a huge relief, life feels like it’s in motion again.

Welcome to WNY. If you’ve got any questions about the area, I might know somebody who knows more than me about it

[JaggedJimmyJay]

@jaywimsattjr

If you follow my tweets I'll follow yours. It's a bargain, see.

(I was finally sold on making a damned Twitter and I have no idea how to find people such that it's even worth using)

[Golden]

@jaywimsattjr

If you follow my tweets I'll follow yours. It's a bargain, see.

(I was finally sold on making a damned Twitter and I have no idea how to find people such that it's even worth using)

Oh why the hell not.

You're going to find out how niche my twitter feed is lol.

[ColinIsCool]

Twitter is an overwhelmingly net negative in my life and in the world imo

[juliets]

@jaywimsattjr

If you follow my tweets I'll follow yours. It's a bargain, see.

(I was finally sold on making a damned Twitter and I have no idea how to find people such that it's even worth using)

jay, I just searched for who I wanted to follow - so like Sports Illustrated, Ellen DeGeneres, Walt Mossberg, etc.

[Sloonei]

I am mostly settled into my new place. Classes start next week. It’s a huge relief, life feels like it’s in motion again.

Welcome to WNY. If you’ve got any questions about the area, I might know somebody who knows more than me about it

Is the weather always so severe? I was driving back to my hotel from dinner two nights ago and it went from no rain to flash flooding in 15 minutes.

[ColinIsCool]

I am mostly settled into my new place. Classes start next week. It’s a huge relief, life feels like it’s in motion again.

Welcome to WNY. If you’ve got any questions about the area, I might know somebody who knows more than me about it

Is the weather always so severe? I was driving back to my hotel from dinner two nights ago and it went from no rain to flash flooding in 15 minutes.

We don’t get a lot of bad storms like that typically, but the snow is mostly brutal (you may recall having seen it on the news around Thanksgiving 2014 — I had a week’s worth of classes cancelled) and it will fluctuate wildly from day to day. People joke that you can get all 4 seasons in one week here, but ... it’s not a joke.

[nutella]

@jaywimsattjr

If you follow my tweets I'll follow yours. It's a bargain, see.

(I was finally sold on making a damned Twitter and I have no idea how to find people such that it's even worth using)

Oh why the hell not.

You're going to find out how niche my twitter feed is lol.

Lol I saw your Twitter a few days ago (I can't remember why) but it was all about the Genius

Ive never used twitter and have basically no interest in it, I'm unfortunately addicted to the blue hellsite that sucks known as tumblr

[Long Con]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

[Golden]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

A world of plates

[G-Man]

Twitter is an overwhelmingly net negative in my life and in the world imo

I never understood the appeal of Twitter. I grew up in the heyday of AOL Instant Messenger, when reading people’s away messages was oftentimes as much fun as IM’ing people. Twitter strikes me as nothing but away messages. Sure, there’s an art to pinning your thoughts down in 140 characters but it all boils down to “this is what I’m doing” or “this is what I think”. The sheer volume of tweets posted in a day boggles my mind. Unless you spend a great deal of time reading through the feeds you follow, you might miss something worth reading. And unless you tweet a lot each day, your feed will get buried by those who do. It’s become, what this old-timer views as, an away message arms race.

[G-Man]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

Long Rock Bar & Grill (or whatever best describes the establishment).

Find yourself a giant slab of granite or shale to use as decor so people think that’s where the name comes from.

[ColinIsCool]

Twitter is an overwhelmingly net negative in my life and in the world imo

I never understood the appeal of Twitter. I grew up in the heyday of AOL Instant Messenger, when reading people’s away messages was oftentimes as much fun as IM’ing people. Twitter strikes me as nothing but away messages. Sure, there’s an art to pinning your thoughts down in 140 characters but it all boils down to “this is what I’m doing” or “this is what I think”. The sheer volume of tweets posted in a day boggles my mind. Unless you spend a great deal of time reading through the feeds you follow, you might miss something worth reading. And unless you tweet a lot each day, your feed will get buried by those who do. It’s become, what this old-timer views as, an away message arms race.

It’s basically just Facebook statuses (or MySpace statuses if you prefer) but the leadership is terrible and it doesn’t lead to a lot of learning or understanding between people who disagree. It’s good for memes but that’s about it.

[JaggedJimmyJay]

I think for many people it's just a convenient place to follow news and thoughts for people and things of special interest (as opposed to primarily friends a la Facebook). I've found it a decent way to track teams in sports I follow, especially for video content unavailable or hard to access on ESPN or the like. It's pretty pointless to post content of one's own without having a considerable enough number of followers that anyone will stand a chance of seeing it.

[JaggedJimmyJay]

doesn’t lead to a lot of learning or understanding between people who disagree.

I think that's the entire Internet.

[juliets]

I think for many people it's just a convenient place to follow news and thoughts for people and things of special interest (as opposed to primarily friends a la Facebook). I've found it a decent way to track teams in sports I follow, especially for video content unavailable or hard to access on ESPN or the like. It's pretty pointless to post content of one's own without having a considerable enough number of followers that anyone will stand a chance of seeing it.

I agree JJJ. I follow a lot of entities like the NYT, the Atlantic, the Wall Street Journal, NPR, several news stations and then I follow a ton of sports sites such as my team's sites and Sports Illustrated and Bleacher Report. I also follow Longreads and a few different book sites. I follow very few people and those I do follow tend to re-tweet some meaty things. I never tweet myself. I see a lot of interesting things coming through my feed, articles and the like.

[juliets]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

Long Rock Bar & Grill (or whatever best describes the establishment).

Find yourself a giant slab of granite or shale to use as decor so people think that’s where the name comes from.

I like this. And congratulations [mention]Long Con[/mention] at your new endeavor!

[nutella]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

Long Rock Bar & Grill (or whatever best describes the establishment).

Find yourself a giant slab of granite or shale to use as decor so people think that’s where the name comes from.

+1

[Sloonei]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

This is exciting, do you care to share more details?

[Epignosis]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

The Hunger

[nutella]

Omg that's even better

[G-Man]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

The Hunger

Yep, that’s a winner. Either go with that or call a fiendishly evil eating challenge The Hunger.

[Long Con]

Long Rock is a cool name, but the main people behind the restaurant are BR and her sister.... I'm not front and center on this.

The Hunger is far too insanely perfect to work. But oh my god yes.

[Long Con]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

This is exciting, do you care to share more details?

It's something we talked about five years ago. Something BR has wanted to do, but when we looked into it five years ago, there were financial barriers. Hell, there might still be, we haven't secured a loan yet, but we're in a better place now financially.

It's actually really sudden. A place opened up in town that has pretty affordable rent, and a great kitchen, and the sisters are driving forward to go with it. Much of the research (and a solid business plan) was already put together five years ago, so that's nice... and he has been Kitchen Manager at a local restaurant for a the last year or two, and has gained a lot of experience in how to run a restaurant.

Honestly, I'm just going along for the ride. We have had big plans before that have broken down for whatever reason, but I'm always going to support her dreams, and it's a dream of hers to own a restaurant. I feel like a leaf in a strong wind.

[nutella]

I feel like a leaf in a strong wind.

Don't say it like that....

[nutella]

anyway that's awesome

[juliets]

So we're starting a restaurant.

What should we name it?

This is exciting, do you care to share more details?

It's something we talked about five years ago. Something BR has wanted to do, but when we looked into it five years ago, there were financial barriers. Hell, there might still be, we haven't secured a loan yet, but we're in a better place now financially.

It's actually really sudden. A place opened up in town that has pretty affordable rent, and a great kitchen, and the sisters are driving forward to go with it. Much of the research (and a solid business plan) was already put together five years ago, so that's nice... and he has been Kitchen Manager at a local restaurant for a the last year or two, and has gained a lot of experience in how to run a restaurant.

Honestly, I'm just going along for the ride. We have had big plans before that have broken down for whatever reason, but I'm always going to support her dreams, and it's a dream of hers to own a restaurant. I feel like a leaf in a strong wind.

This is very exciting - tell BR congrats for me and of course same to you. What kind of food will you serve? And I guess this means you will give up the Sandwich wagon?

[Long Con]

I'll post the current potential menu when I get access to her notebook. Current name is the Hummingbird Family Restaurant, but no one is in love with that name. Maybe the Glass Hummingbird?

[Long Con]

I feel like a leaf in a strong wind.

Don't say it like that....

It might be a really good wind though. Maybe we'll become richer!

[juliets]

I'll post the current potential menu when I get access to her notebook. Current name is the Hummingbird Family Restaurant, but no one is in love with that name. Maybe the Glass Hummingbird?

I like the Glass Hummingbird. What is the relevance of a hummingbird?

[Quin]

I'll post the current potential menu when I get access to her notebook. Current name is the Hummingbird Family Restaurant, but no one is in love with that name. Maybe the Glass Hummingbird?

Will you do delivery? To Australia?

[Long Con]

I'll post the current potential menu when I get access to her notebook. Current name is the Hummingbird Family Restaurant, but no one is in love with that name. Maybe the Glass Hummingbird?

I like the Glass Hummingbird. What is the relevance of a hummingbird?

It's to do with their grandfather, he liked hummingbirds, hummingbirds remind them of him... his ashes are in a box with a hummingbird on them.

I'll post the current potential menu when I get access to her notebook. Current name is the Hummingbird Family Restaurant, but no one is in love with that name. Maybe the Glass Hummingbird?

Will you do delivery? To Australia?

Hell yeah

[Epignosis]

I want to go to Canada. I love Rush, and I love sandwiches.